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Posted by Pastor's Dr.'s Rob and Carlotta Boles on March 28, 2010 at 10:02 AM

DEALING WITH SELF-ESTEEM

 

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Symptoms of inferiority and low-esteem include the fact that the person feels bad about themselves, especially when they are criticized. Self-esteem deals with the evaluation we make of ourselves, as to our value, our competence, and our significance. Good mental health will include good self-esteem.

 

BIBLE TEACHING ON SELF-ESTEEM

Considerable differences of opinion come from those involved in mental health, saying man is worthless and must destroy any satisfaction with ourselves that may exist, while others write that a positive self-image is correct because of our new nature as new creatures in Christ Jesus. This includes the sense of value, which comes when realization is there of a restored relationship with their Creator.

 

The requirement here is that we understand that there is a difference between terms that show us in a bad light, and those which are accurate and good. For instance, putting off the sinful nature is not putting ourselves down. Self-denial is not the same as self-denigration, nor is humility the same as humiliation. Being unworthy does not mean we are worthless. We are to have positive self-esteem because of the finished work of Christ, not because we have done anything.

 

THE BIBLE TEACHES HUMAN WORTH

Throughout its pages, the Bible testifies of God's view of men being very valuable in His sight. He has crowned us with glory and honor. He sent His Son to die for us, though we did not deserve it. Angels guard us, the Holy Spirit guides us, and the Scriptures teach us of who we are in Christ Jesus.

 

THE BIBLE TEACHES ABOUT HUMAN SIN.

All are sinners because of Adam's sin. Sin is rebellion. Yet, God sent Jesus to deliver us out of it. God hates sin, but loves the sinner. Though sin has broken man's relationship with God, it still does not stop God from loving and reaching out to us.

 

THE BIBLE TEACHES AGAINST PRIDE

Pride is not the same as self-esteem. Pride elevates the self with exaggerated desire to win notice or have the highest position. It is an over-estimation of who we really are, without a desire to climb over others to take their position.

 

THE BIBLE SPEAKS ABOUT SELF-LOVE

Self-love is not erotic or self-adoration. It simply means that we understand that we are saved by grace, and are loved and valued by God. It is also the fact that we understand that we are valued members of the Body of Christ, who are to supply or minister to others.

 

CAUSES OF LOW SELF-ESTEEM/INFERIORITY

There is a tendency toward faulty theology. If we feel worthless because of sin, we feel inferior. However, sin does not make us insignificant to God. Some feel they must self-crucify themselves. However, Christ has already gone through that for us. We are simply to identify with what He has done. Self-crucifixion will cause us to deny or squelch the abilities, talent, personalities, and capacities God has placed in us that we may accomplish His purpose in life.

 

Sin and guilt tend to create low self-esteem. Violating the sin principle, we feel remorse and disappointment due to the guilt of failure to keep God's Law. Past experiences affect our measure of ourselves. The difference of self-worth we feel are more impacted by whether we are educated well than by whether we are Christian or not. Many times failure comes because of what others expect of us, rather than our own success or failure.

 

Parent/Child relationships impact self-esteem. Feelings of inferiority can come in a child when they are punished out of balance to the misbehavior, criticized excessively or rejected continually, have unrealistic goals set for them, feel that they are stupid, receive no significant touches, or are so controlled or dominated that they do not learn to take charge of their own lives until dumped into that situation.

 

Unrealistic expectations and ideals will potentially bring about low self-esteem. Setting ourselves up for failure will bring the results of strong feelings of inferiority. False beliefs concerning whose standards and expectations must be met, feeling pressure because of failure, or failing to master our world cause low self-esteem.

 

EFFECTS OF LOW SELF-ESTEEM/INFERIORITY

The person with low self-esteem will feel isolated and unlovable. The see themselves as too weak to overcome their perceived deficiencies. They will have a lack of drive, due to their psychological condition, to defend themselves. Many of these people have a problem getting along with others.

 

They will have a lack of inner peace and security. They tend to withdraw socially, and become critical or jealous of others. They will complain, be argumentative, intolerant, and hypersensitive.

 

PREVENTION OF LOW SELF-ESTEEM/INFERIORITY

Prevention comes first of all from teaching. Some people have been taught that spiritual people should put themselves down, as if that is humility. Others have been taught that God is sitting on His throne, just waiting for them to make a mistake so He can hit them over the head with His big hammer. These wrong conceptions of Christianity must gbe faced with true teaching that God loves us and that is why we love ourselves. We accept what comes from God, the abilities and gifts, and experience His forgiveness with praise for what He has done for us. What the Bible truly teaches is the best self-concept a Christian can have. READ IT!!!!

 

If you haven't accepted Christ as your Savior simply say in an audible voice, in all sincerity from the depths of your heart, "Lord Jesus Christ, forgive me of my sins and accept me as Your child. I accept You as my personal Savior and I promise to follow the instructions of Your Word from this day on. If I fail because I am human, please help pick me up so I can try again! Thank you, Jesus, for saving me from all my sins. AMEN."

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2 Comments

Reply Rev. Saundra
9:13 AM on April 17, 2010 
A great sermon delineating the biblical truths surrounding the value of humanity as one of God's creations He called "good." Love and peace.
Reply Pastor's Dr.'s Rob and Carlotta Boles
4:21 PM on September 15, 2010 
Thank you Rev. Saundra and much love!!!